So today I thought I would talk about this horrible word called
PATIENCE.
It's something that we don't have a lot of, especially in today's era.
How long does it take to load a webpage? A youtube video?
…..is it sad that we each probably know that exact amount of time?
It's because it's the NOW era. With the edition of the cell phone, and then becoming a smart phone (basically a small computer at your finger tips), and of course googling everything we need to know….
we aren't exactly accustomed to waiting for answers.
And you know, I'm still grateful for all that stuff. I want to look at reference for a painting, or whatever, it takes me mere minutes to have something. That's time that I can afford.
And yet…. half the time we think taking the time to find reference is a WASTE of time.
THINK OF THIS:
All those old reference painters, they had to have SOMEONE STAND THERE AND POSE FOR THEM. FOR HOURS, DAYS, WEEKS POSSIBLE.
Talk about a "waste of time" in our minds!! And yet, where would we be without them??
Back in high school, when we hit 17/18 years old, there was that question: What are you doing after you graduate?
HECK: even growing up as a child we are asked: What do you want to do when you grow up?
And when were 10, we say fun things on a whim:
A dentist,
A doggie doctor,
A scientist,
A dinosaur… haha….
And sometimes we mean it, and other times, we just say something that sounded fun.
BUT WHEN YOU HIT COLLEGE: the question is now REAL.
And the answer has to be 100%. Or….
there is no or. You either know, or you shouldn't go to college…. right? That's what I was told.
Well, Let me tell you something: I graduated college, and
IT'S WORSE. People now EXPECT that you know.
And it's part of this society, the KNOW NOW mentality. The days of saying something that was a hobby are gone, because now it has to: Pay the Bills, Support a Family, Fix the Car, etc.
Whatever you chose, it has to DO something for you, right?
Well, this societal impact kinda stinks.
Back in the day, there was this really cool thing called Apprentice. You studied under what you were supposed to do, and you knew that was where you were going.
Yet, that sux in it's own way, because now you have no choice but to Apprentice under whatever you were born into.
So….
I suggest something, Semi-crazy.
Have some patience with yourself. If you aren't 100% sold on something, it's simply OK. It feels like (to me) like I'm a disappointment. I don't know where I'm going, therefore I must HURRY and FIGURE IT OUT ASAP.
I read on Facebook the other day that the FASTER you need something done, the MORE time it will take.
So, if I'm studying to become a pianist, and I NEED TO BE GOOD AT IT TODAY, so it can bring money in, get me a job, etc….
it's going to take me 10xs longer to get better at it.
Simply because I have stress, and fear and NO PATIENCE.
LOVE TODAY.
That's right LOVE IT.
DO you have the job you love? Probably not. Does it pay the bills? Great. That's awesome. Then work for what you love.
****THE FEAR OF TIME:
My wonderful boyfriend of 5years brought up that he wishes he had more time. Something we all want.
But here's what I read in my "Success is not an Accident" book (It's great, you should read it):
YOU HAVE AS MUCH TIME AS YOU BELIEVE YOU HAVE.
If you don't manage your time, It'll pass you by, LITTERALLY in an instant. Somehow Netflix, Facebook, Twitter, Vines, Instagram, and then POOF, its 7pm or even later. And now your day is over. So now you can just keep goofing off until you go to bed.
I can also choose where to put my time.
****DONT BE AFRAID OF NO:
The word "No" is a wonderful word. It brings about freedom and confidence. You should try it sometime.
I myself am still learning the wonders of the word No.
Don't be a wet blanket: In other words: don't half commit. That's the worst.
Either PLAN for it.
Or Dont.
Don't say yes if you know that you will be luke warm about it. Think of it this way: do you have the time (or make the time) to dedicate to a project that DESERVES time?
If not, then it's not really a MEAN or NASTY response to say No.
It's simply: I wish I was the man for the job, but I don't have the passion needed to make time in my busy schedule for this. SOmeone else probably has a lovely spot in there life for it and YOUR PROJECT deserves more time than I can give it.
See that? No is a wonderful word.
****MONEY COMES TO LOVERS:
There's this artist that I follow on Facebook, and her paintings are super crazy realistic. I like it, you might not, but that's not the point.
The point is that SHE QUIT HER FULL TIME JOB.
Yup. She quit and just paints whatever the heck she wants, and makes money doing it.
How?
Because, SHE LOVED IT.
She loved it, people saw that she loved it, and now she has an audience. While she's working full time, mind you.
And now, enough people see the passion she has, the time she makes to commit to what she loves, even though she has a job on the side.
Now she started a Patreon.
THIS GIRL MAKES $15,000 EVERY 2 WEEKS NOW.
Just on Patreon.
So she quit her job. Never anticipating it, just doing it because she loved it.
The money is out there, but you have to have a passion for it WHEN IT PAYS NOTHING.
That's why the first thing I said is: Find what it is you love. Loving something that will give you money, or loving something because you love it are two different things.
Do you follow me?
There are more stories I have like this, but you get the jist.
Love it first. For what it is.
And you know what?
I don't know what that is for me. There are a ZILLION ideas out there. Ideas are NOT the issue.
Hence why I can say all of this to you, without fearing you stealing my ideas.
Ideas aren't what do anything for you.
ACTION behind an IDEA = BIG THINGS.
That's the secret to life.
Seriously.
I'll be here all week.
Haha, Seriously though. Take your time finding what it is you love.
You don't have to be THE YOUNGEST PERSON TO EVER _______.
You don't have to start tomorrow.
I'll leave you with these parting words that are rocking my world: ENDURE PATIENTLY.
Endure. Not "wait", but Endure. That word fits so well.
And Endure how? Patiently.
Patiently… like with peace and joy.
Wow.
Endure Patiently.
Cheers,
JECooper
PS!!! THIS IS IMPORTANT: YOU CAN NOW POST AS ANONYMOUS YOU DONT HAVE TO HAVE A BLOGGER ID TO BE HEARD! SO I'D LOVE TO HEAR YOUR THOUGHTS ON THE MATTER TOO!
It'd be cool to know who you are though!
Here's a work in progress, rough sketch. It's not done yet.
Well, the truth is: it was painted.
But I didn't like it. So I'm enduring patiently, and starting it over again.
So here's the rough sketch =)
DRAGONS: DAY AND NIGHT
ROUGH SKETCH
Comment any time that you jumped too quickly on to a passion and pushed it to make you money.
ReplyDeleteOr a time when you found a passion in an unexpected location =)